Keep a guilt journal or write lists
As soon as guilty feelings start to nag, jot them down in a journal. Record the time, day and why you feel bad, then revisit your entries every couple of weeks. Look for any trends that might help explain the underlying reasons for your guilt.
You are probably your own worst critic, so it’s easy to ignore your good qualities and focus on what you do wrong, says Walfish. But being secure and happy with yourself can do wonders in fighting against that inner critic. Write down 10 things you love about yourself, and pull it out whenever you’re feeling inadequate.
Also, write down your top three priorities, whether it’s your kids, your partner, your career, your spirituality, or your health. If you start feeling guilty about something you didn’t do, pull out your list. Not in your top three? Not worth the guilt trip.
Remember: moderation is OK
Quit feeling guilty over your indulgences, Walfish says. Red wine may help your heart, dark chocolate is full of antioxidants, and popcorn is packed with fibre. A little treat won’t kill you so give yourself permission to enjoy those little luxuries.
But maybe you want to unwind without booze. Here are 10 healthy alternatives to alcohol.
Set aside time to feel guilty
Take 5 minutes to let those guilty feelings come to you. Now either remedy that problem (give your mum a call, or carve out time for the gym), or take it as a lived-and-learned lesson and forgive yourself, Jackson says.