Why is it so easy to forget someone’s name within seconds of meeting them? Because, you weren’t really listening—you were too busy thinking about what to say next.
One easy way to skirt that natural selfishness and propel any conversation forward is to open with flattery.
When you meet someone for the first time, ‘Pay that person a compliment when repeating their name, thus helping to anchor and embed it even deeper into your memory,’ says professional mentalist Oz Pearlman, who sometimes has to remember the names of hundreds of people he just met for his act.
If you compliment Alyssa on her necklace, you instantly prime your brain to recall her name the next time you see that necklace, Pearlman says.
‘As a bonus, everyone enjoys flattery, so that compliment can go a long way toward you being remembered as well.’