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Learn to love living alone

Discover a mental strength to face the challenges that come with solo life

Tool 7. Be your own good company, motivator and cheerleader
Tool 7. Be your own good company, motivator and cheerleader
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You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, so make sure you are good company.

I am lucky enough to enjoy my own company, but if you don’t enjoy yours, what can you do to make it better?

There are times when I think that no one would miss me if I disappeared in a puff of smoke. That makes me feel lonely.

Rationally, I am sure they would and to remind myself I keep a big scrapbook with loving cards, letters and emails from friends and family. I am important to them. I have it in writing.

People rarely give compliments or praise, so fill the vacuum yourself.

Don’t wait for others to say ‘well done’.  Pat yourself on the back regularly. You are doing so well just putting one foot in front of the other.

When things threaten to overwhelm and you feel your little solo rowing boat is taking on water, keep things in perspective.

Whatever troubles you are going through only represent a tiny dot on your line of life.

In one year, or five, it will matter less, or not at all.

You are stronger than you think.

This is an edited extract from The Art of Living Alone and Loving It by Jane Mathews, out now from Murdoch Books.



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