They look for common interests
We all have a shared interest or two if we dig deep enough. Once you identify that shared interest, you’ll have a stronger connection. Mutual interests provide an avenue and outlet for people to express what they love, Goldstein says. They help conversations flow in a positive direction. Finding common ground also shows that you care about them because you’re interested in what’s important to them, he says.
They don’t focus on themselves
People who are likable don’t spend too much time obsessing about themselves. They don’t worry how well they’re liked. Instead, they focus on those around them, Syrtash says. In conversations, they ask a lot of questions, including ones that are open-ended to draw the other person out.
They treat everyone respectfully
Whether they’re interacting with the waiter taking their dinner order or their biggest client, charming people realise that everyone should be treated with the same kindness. “Everyone deserves respect, and if you see someone disrespect another person, you won’t walk away with a positive opinion of them, no matter what they’ve said to you,” says Burbach. Charismatic people don’t feel that they’re better than or above anyone else.