Feel it in your body
“Grief is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give and cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and the hollow part in your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” —Jamie Anderson, professional snowboarder
It’s not unusual to feel grief physically, inside your body, like a bruised heart or a choked-up throat. We mourn with our whole selves, so find ways to comfort yourself physically as well as emotionally. Seek out a warm hug or take a long walk.
Talk to them
“Sometimes I just look up, smile, and say ‘I know that was you!’” —Anonymous
Many people find comfort in speaking out loud or writing a letter to a loved one who has passed on. It helps you to articulate your feelings and work through them.
“Depression is a feeling without a cause. Mourning has a cause.” —Edward Hirsch, poet
Grief and mourning are so much more than feeling sad. In fact, you can feel grief and joy and humour and anger – and a myriad of other feelings all at the same time. Feeling bad about your negative feelings will only make you feel worse. Identifying your feelings and the cause can help you work through them.