“I’m too shy, I can’t talk to other people”
Social anxiety is a real thing and it can be very debilitating but it doesn’t have to rule your life and you can overcome your fears. “Start by recognising that just because you have a thought, it does not mean it is true,” says Jennifer Welbel, licensed professional counsellor. “You have thoughts all the time that you don’t give meaning or credence to.” Then take small steps to increase your comfort with a larger social circle.
Reframe it: “It may feel scary at first, but I will try to make one new friend tonight.”
“I can’t go out without makeup on”
It’s very common to worry about what people will think of your appearance, including your clothing, accessories and makeup, but while those things can help make a good first impression, it’s important to remember they don’t define who you are, says Prakash Masand, MD, a psychiatrist and founder of the Centers of Psychiatric Excellence.
Reframe it: “It’s fine to leave the house even if I don’t look perfect.”
“My life is too overwhelming, I’m going back to bed”
It’s one thing to look at a long to-do list and want to go back to bed, it’s entirely another to actually do it. Hiding your head in the sand will only make your problems snowball, says Dr. Masand. “Start small,” he says. “Break your day down into smaller, more manageable tasks. This will help you feel better about all that you have to accomplish.”
Reframe it: “I can’t do everything, but I can do this one thing.”